Why women date other marrieds?
Chat about a loaded theme that no one wants to speak about, that’s it. Funny thing, affairs have been going on ever since millennium. Affairs can be fraught with evils, cause despair, and other troubles. Plus you have to wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and openness matter, funds, age dissimilarity, faith background, shame, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this article I shall identify an affair as a long term, maybe years long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, date married man.
Why do men have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are seek an extramarital affair. I think mainly though it is only the human nature, the need for care, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and respected. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
Physically we as humans are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is enjoyable and fun, and sex makes us get away the world for a small period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Some people can switch the craving on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another person, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos culture has erected against extra-marital affairs. For many individuals the yearnings will beat their fears and make them risk the anger of not only their relatives, but the public also. So why, what is the catalyst?
Sex Addicts, possibly some of us are. Sex is extremely good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically driven sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not hurt your spouse or anybody else? You would need to lessen the hazard you are taking. If you have the attitude that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the biggest group, huge truly. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, but they feel comfy in the way they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Also there are the kids to consider. Your funds are so entangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be together besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that stop them completing the sex act, at least not with their othere half. An extramarital affair from time to time solves the trouble while keeping the marriage whole.
Avoidance, sorrowfully this is a ordinary groung I fear. One or the other, frequently the man is sexually neglecting his wife for a number of reasons. As a male I actually am thankful to you guys neglecting your ladies and making them accessible to us men of romance, making them “milf wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but evil.
Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Perhaps its romance that is missing, could be it is a shortage of love, maybe compassion is vanished, could be it is the closeness, maybe neglect. Maybe we have just developed separately, our general concerns diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is opposed to of what you want. Could be I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The first reason people give is, they search for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for economic gain, for retribution and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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